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I haven’t made an entry into my blog for quite some time, I decided to take a little time and talk about this last year and the depression that goes along with it. First of all, let me state that I am not trying to cry about my life, we are dealt we get, it is what it is. But it does help to talk about it sometimes.

Around the first of April my middle  daughter got into a car accident, she was going home in the wee hours after delivering newspapers, it was raining heavily her car hydroplaned spun out of control and she hit the retaining wall, thank god her car was newer and all the airbags successfully deployed, and other than being scared half to death she came out of it with a few bumps, bruises, and was very sore for a few weeks. Unfortunately, her car was totaled and the insurance only covered paying off the loan. She and her husband have had to settle for an older car, but at least she is alive.

On April 13th my wife and I were dropping off some food for a food bank drive at a friends house, they have a heavily sloped driveway and upon leaving, I had gone out first to follow my friend to their church where they were storing their food donations. I started the car put it in reverse and it wouldn’t move because the emergency brake was still on. I don’t usually set it, so I had trouble finding the release, I put the car in park climbed out to look under the dash to fin the brake release, my wife had come out and was just opened her door to get in, when I hit the brake release, the car went into reverse knocked her over, and the right front tire ran over her left leg, while this was happening I held on to the car, it dragged me approximately 25 feet, and when I let go it ran over both of my legs with the left front tire. My wife suffered major muscle damage to her left thigh, but no broken bones, I had major road rash on my right leg from the dragging, cuts, and bruises to both legs, and fractured my left fibula. We were both out of commission for three weeks, my wounds got infected and took much longer to heal, and I had to go to wound therapy to aid in the healing process, my wounds are basically healed now, but I still suffer pain from the accident.

A week after that our oldest daughter had stopped by to visit her two ailing parents, she stayed longer than normal and left around 11:00 PM to go home. On her way home as she was getting off of the freeway, and a man jumped in her car pointed a gun to her head and made her drive to a secluded park where he brutally sexually assaulted her. he cut off her clothing and then took a knife and started cutting her all over her body, he was getting ready to rape her when a car pulled into the parking lot and scared him away. This was very devastating to her and the family, and she will take a long to heal mentally from the incident.

In June after a brief trip to CA to celebrate my sister and her husbands 50th anniversary, my wife got appendicitis, she had to have emergency surgery to have her appendix removed, and was down another three weeks.

Then after thinking our youngest had escaped all the disasters that have hit our family this yer, she gets into an accident, it wasn’t her fault and her car was totaled. She is still fighting to get the insurance money so he can get a replacement car. She is a single parent raising three kids, on a low paying job, so she doesn’t have a lot of places to turn to, and without the insurance money, she has no way to get a car.

Then I came down with cellulitis in my left foot, which laid me up for 7 weeks, it is getting better now, but not 100% yet.

Needless to say, this experience has left us emotionally exhausted and also wit new medical bills to pay for.

I really miss the days before I became disabled, I could do more for my family than I can do now, right now I can only give them my love and support.

So that is why I am depressed, I need something to brighten my days and help me look forward to better things in the coming year.

So that is it, for now, hopefully, things will improve looking forward. As always Rusty Loves you!

 

 

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My world is all askew eight now. This has been a rough year for our family. My middle daughter was in a horrific accident a couple of months ago on an early rainslicked highway, where she lost control of her car, and hit the barrier wall, it could have been way worse, but she luckily escaped with bumps, bruises, and a very sore neck, unfortunately her car was totaled out, we are lucky she is still alive.

On April 13th while donating some food for a friends food drive, my wife and
I were injured in a freak accident with our car, she was run over by the right front tire over her left leg, and I was dragged approximately 20 feet and then run over by the left front tire, it ran over both legs, left me with a fractured fibula, and road rash over both legs and my hip, it has been a very slow healing process for both of us, my wife is back to work now, but I am still partially laid up, my wounds are painful, they got infected and not healing up very fast, even with extensive antibiotic therapy.

Then on April 24th my oldest daughter Marci was viciously attacked and sexually assaulted. She had come to visit my wife and I to spend the evening with us, she had not been able to visit due to health issues, and we were still homebound  due to our accident. She left out home a little after 11:00  PM, she was exiting off of the freeway on 90th South offramp, she was stopped at the light waiting to turn left, and a man jumped into her car in the left passenger seat, held what she thought was a gun to her head and instructed her to so exactly as her told her, or he would kill her. (Before you chastise her for not keeping her car locked, she thought it was, the automatic door locks had not worked properly, and her passanger door did not lock.) He instructed her to drive to to a local park in Sandy Ut, (Falcon Park 9200 S 1700 E, Sandy, UT 84093). He then had her climb into the back seat, he cut off her clothing, and then repeatedly slashed at her with a knife, while also beating her, he had taken off his, pants and suddenly a car pulled inot the parking lot of the park, and he shouted “oh fuck”, jumped out the car, put his pants back on and took off. I truely believe had the car not pulled in the parking lot, he would have raped her and most likely killed her.  She then drove herself to the ER, she did not want to stay in the area alone any longer, and called 911 from the ER parking lot.

Sandy police are still conducting a full ivestigation, and are still waiting for DNA results. They did as press release a couple of  days after the tragic incident, and I personally contacted all four local news stations 3 of which respnded to do a full report on the news, channel 13 here in Utah chose not to, intead they posted a partial report with thier own spin, that sounded very much like the police did not fully belive it ever happened. It did in fact happen, and I was there at the hospital that evening/early morning, I will never forget the sight of seeing my daughter laying in a hospital bed covered in blood with cuts and bruises all over her body, and yes the police were there in force.

Local news report

The police finally had a sketch artist conduct a composit sketch here it is with a brief description of the suspect.

So here is the composite sketch of the man that attacked my daughter. This sketch is almost 100% spot on. Again this happened on the night of April 24. The man was white had a black baseball cap with darker hair coming down from the back. He had a slender face and long skinny nose, he had a scab or a mole on his left cheek, a thin mustache and very crooked teeth, which the sketch artist drew those as well. At the time he was wearing a white tee-shirt with the letters ARC in red on the left, black jeans, dirty tan work boots, he also had a black zip up hoodie and was carrying a black backpack and he stunk really bad and had horrible breath. 5’11” approximately 200 lbs. The police are still investigating so if anyone sees a man that fits this description please call the Sandy Police Department right away. (801) 568-7200. Please help find the man that attacked my daughter so she can go on with her life! Please share this with everyone! Let’s make this go viral!

 

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We need this to go out all over the internet, this bastard needs to be caught and prosecuted to the fullest extent the law allows. I hope all of you will share this, and make it go viral.

This incident and all the others have taken a heavy toll on myself and my family, this is some of my therapy indealing with all the recent tragedy in our lives, I hope you understand why I feel the to not let it all go, we are all working on getting our lives back to some form of normalcy, not that it ever was, but this helps a little.

Just want to say I love you all and thanks for taking the time to read this.

 

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Living life one day at a time:

 

Not trying to sound like a saint, or a crybaby, just telling a little of my story, as it is.

 

I will explain a little about what has happened to me in my life. My wife and I have been married over 43 years, we were very young, she was 17, and I was 18, we didn’t have any children for the first 4 and a half years, so we did get a chance to grow up a little.  We pretty much have always had kids or relatives living with us. Our oldest lived with us after she got married and stayed until 7 years ago, we have taken in stray kids that were friends of our three daughters, in 1997 we moved back to Utah from CA, and bought an old 7 bedroom farmhouse, it was a two story, with two kitchens, and after our oldest moved out we let me niece and her husband move in upstairs, also during that time, our youngest and her husband moved in with us for two years, out middle daughter also moved in and out three times, my wife’s niece was going to be homeless, and her and her 3 boys moved in for a year. we also helped a couple more of our daughters friends during their rough and trying times, by opening our house to them, seems like we were always the place for people we knew falling on hard times as a place to go, we never said no to anyone in need.

That all fell apart in 2011, when I lost my job and became disabled due to severe neuropathy. I still tried to find work to no avail, we sold everything we owned trying to stay in that house, finally losing it in 2013, we were forced to live with our middle daughter and her husband for a year, finally my disability money kicked in and we now live in a small 3 bedroom manufactured home, thought we were going to be alone when I found out an old business associate was going to be homeless, we let her move in for a few months. I still had that open door policy.

Then last March we took in our three youngest grandchildren, their lives have been very rough and each of them have their own special needs, the oldest has ADHD, the middle one is working through medical bowel issues, the youngest is autistic, so between doctors, school, counseling, and all the other things that come with raising 3 young children it has taken it’s toll on the two of us, to top that off in January of 2015, my father came back to UT, due to his health moved in with my sister, and because she still worked I became his chauffeur, working with the VA, and his doctor appointments, which averaged 8 a month, sometimes more, he passed away at 89 this last October, which again really affected me, because in the 19 months he was here our relationship grew closer then ever, but, I still had to take care of the grandkids, it didn’t leave me much time to grieve, that could have been good though.  It seems that our other grandkids have grown more distant from us, they used to come  and spend the weekends with us a couple of times a month, not sure if they are just growing up and and spending the night and Nana and Papa’s is not as fun anymore, but I do miss them a lot.  I do not mean to sound like a jerk, but I do appreciate the time when my daughter can take them, this is the first time in the year since we took them in that we have been without them for a week, so yes I am looking forward to some free time for just myself and my wife. I do love my family very much, and would do anything I could for them. I hope I didn’t bore you with the book I just wrote, I just wanted you to know where I am coming from, and all the while I still have my disability and I am in constant pain, but I live with that.

 

As always I will close with Rusty Loves you, peace, love, happiness, and positive vibes.
Update:

The grandkids are now with their Aunt Sarah until their Mom can take them. I am going to start working on myself, I have been told by a few people that I have aged a lot in that year, even my doctor told me I have to start taking better care of myself. So my goal for 2017 is to try to get my health back in the right track. 

I have a lot of issues to work through, I will keep you all updated as hopefully I progress to better things.

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The legacy we have created together

At this time of year I always get feeling a little melancholy.

Christmas to me means Family!

As a child it was the family being together on Christmas morning, happy faces, but most of all just being a family. Going to visit the grandparents, and seeing all the relatives. It really wasn’t about the presents, it was being a family.

As we got older and had children of our own, it was again Christmas morning with all the smiling happy faces, and getting the rest of our family together to celebrate the day. I did my best to keep the going as long as I could.

Now it just my family, my three daughters, and their families. But it seems so hard to get us all together at the same time, it feels like we are all going different directions, and it saddens me at times.

I truly do love my family, and they are the world to me, the most constant person I can always count on being there is my beautiful wife Melia.

Okay time to get off the melancholy and be happy.

I do hope the holidays bring happiness to everyone I know.

As always Rusty Loves You!

40 years together renewing our vows October 26th 2013

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HAPPY HOLIDAYS

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